The Key to Relationship Growth
I don’t want to save you, I want to stand by your side while you save yourself. -Unknown The work in a relationship is to develop ourselves and let the
Vitality in the Workplace Series #2
“I have no reason to complain, I chose each step that brought me here so why am I so unhappy?” Sound familiar? Purpose is one of the most sought after
The Stories that I Told Myself
Originally published on the occasion of International Women’s Day As a little girl I grew up in a family where everyone was trying to survive so I told myself that
Audio: Love is a State of Being
As we bring the so called ‘month of love’ to an end, I would like to shine a bit of my own truth about the messiness of love. First
Vitality in the Workplace Series #1
Health Threat to Silicon Valley Companies I see a major underlying threat to companies’ health in the Silicon Valley. The workforce needs support in finding purpose and meaning in their
5 Tips for Dating as Busy Professionals
Working long hours? Looking for love? How on Earth will you find the time for yourself AND for dating!? You’re not alone! It’s a common theme in Silicon Valley: people
Desire is Not a Dirty Word
I often hesitate to share certain material because what I’m suggesting is the emotional equivalent of free falling off of a bridge. It’s like I’m asking you to close your
Results-Based Leadership: Harnessing Failure to Unleash Growth
How to Influence Your Colleagues to Achieve Shared Goals Leadership and failure are not often thought to go hand in hand, but once we conquer the heart-pounding fear of failure,
If You Aren’t Motivated To Start It Now, Then It’s The Wrong Goal! How To Set 2017 Goals That Stick (Dec Newsl’t)
Okay, so we all fall victim to creating goals around what we think we “should” be doing. STOP it! As soon as you hear yourself thinking “I should______ (work out,
Special Edition: Neurology That Supports Effective Leadership
Here’s a bit of science jargon sprinkled with a simple application to keep you effectively flowing and peaceful. As much as we would like to push down or away from
5 Steps to Effective Goal Setting
As we bring January to an end, how did you do with your New Year’s resolutions? Did they already get lost in your to do pile?? If so, it
Purpose & Wisdom
The phrase “you don’t know what you don’t know until you know it,” makes more and more sense with each passing day. There are moments that hit us out of
Effective Calendar & Time Management: 2018
Take a listen to my audio guide to Effective Calendaring & Time Management for a Fresh & Organized 2018! For more help with the emotional part of calendaring (FOMO,
Goal Setting: The Allegory of the Hiker
Listen to Heather’s guided reflection on 2017 and goal-setting for 2018 Let’s close out 2017 with a touch of reflection and a mountain of intention. Let’s chart out where we’ve
Battling S.A.D.
Battling Seasonal Affect Disorder (SAD) has been a lifelong challenge around this time of year when the wind chill is crisp and the clouds transform California’s gold to green. There
IFS + The Enneagram
This blog covers the intersection of two powerful modalities I use regularly in my coaching practice: I will share an overview of these two modalities, but let’s first start with
Clear Communication to Create Secure Attachment
With IFS (Internal Family Systems) & NVC (Non-Violent Communication) Integrated Here is the why Here is a personal example from my childhood that, I hope, will illustrate how we can
A Simple Set of Useful Tools to Create Balance in Uncertain Times
We have compiled a set of useful tools, based on the most common challenges that clients are experiencing during the pandemic. Each tool has been designed to help you direct
The Marble Jar Challenge
Who this challenge is useful for 😀 Anyone interested in developing a new habit. The story… A brilliant client came up with a really fun idea to help themselves develop
Ending Addictive Thinking
Imagine a small white cigarette on a table in front of you. That little cigarette is completely harmless as long as it just lays there, right? Cigarettes are like your
One Question to End Recurring Negative Thinking
The black Ford van pulled up to the curb at Terminal 3, door C. The Lyft driver came around to open the back hatch. He was medium height with a
A 2-Step Process to Help With Anxiety When You’re Feeling Judged
Each time Kristy thought of going back home for the holidays, her stomach lurched and her chest felt tight. Kristy pictured the disapproving tense look on her mother’s face when
Transform Anxiety with Lovingkindness
The darkness had not yet been disrupted by the dawn. Emma sat draped in her vibrant patch quilt blanket. The aroma of mint drifted up through the steam, rousing her
Are you fulfilled in your relationships?
According to research, our relationships will be the number one predictor of our lifespan. Here are the typical responses that I hear when I ask, “Are you fulfilled in your
Vulnerability Is a B!tch
Have you ever felt that twinge of jealousy when you see a friend or (ex) partner having fun with someone else? In the past, I would feel a stab of
How to Survive Valentine’s Day
According to my team, the number one search on Vday is “how to survive Valentine’s day.” Well shit, talk about counterproductive, a day set to celebrate love and it winds
Series: A World Beyond Denying our Needs.
Needs: A Burgeoning Awareness Most of us would not say that we are particularly skilled at identifying our needs; even fewer would feel comfortable asking for their needs to be
How to Soften the Grip of Fear About the Future
Today, I stand with you, and in support of you. And while I know today might feel heavy and uncertain for many, my hope is that we can soften our
Perfectionism vs. Growth Mindset
Plus the new realization that’s turned my perfectionism on it’s head ???? The Realization: The perfectionistic mindset shift that can amplify your efficiency in a HUGE way! Perfectionism is like
DON’T CLOSE YOUR HEART FOR ANYTHING OR ANYONE
She leaned against the wall, the vise-like restriction tightening from the inside out. She could sense the discomfort crawling up her throat and felt like she may throw up. Tears
A Simply Mindset Change to Stop Feeling Weighed Down by Past or Future
Danny’s gaze fell on the crystal hourglass set on the wooden table in front of her. She watched meditatively as the tiny grains of sparkling golden sand collectively flowed from
The Gratitude Waterfall
Here’s how I discovered my new favorite meditation! The Gratitude Waterfall. I stepped out of the car, onto the gravelly dirt road and let out a long exhale. Looking up,
Meeting Life’s Challenges with Softness and Strength
Imagine you just walked into work, you see your boss walking quickly towards you, one hand gripping a stack of papers, the other in a fist. Their mouth is tight,
