Scheduling to Create an On Point Work Life Balance
Picture you’re just about to hit send on the last email of the day. The cold beer waiting for you at home is already on your mind; you can practically
How to Ditch the Habits Holding You Back
Imagine a dark piece of marbled oak wood in front of you. In your hand, you’re holding the stainless steel handle of an etching tool. Now, picture yourself carving
How to Build the Courage to Change
Letting go and softening into change has not come easily for me. Although I would like to think that letting go of tension in my body, relationships, and stress looks
Are you fulfilled in your relationships?
According to research, our relationships will be the number one predictor of our lifespan. Here are the typical responses that I hear when I ask, “Are you fulfilled in your
Vulnerability Is a B!tch
Have you ever felt that twinge of jealousy when you see a friend or (ex) partner having fun with someone else? In the past, I would feel a stab of
Loneliness in Silicon Valley
Helen’s shoulders drooped during her coaching session. “I’m so overwhelmed. I know I should go out, but going out feels like such a hassle. I’d rather go home to relax
Special Edition: Neurology That Supports Effective Leadership
Here’s a bit of science jargon sprinkled with a simple application to keep you effectively flowing and peaceful. As much as we would like to push down or away from
Do You Get Stuck in Looped Thinking
Do you ever find yourself thinking the same frustrating thoughts? Does it feel like you’re stuck in a Groundhog Day of the mind? There’s actually a scientific explanation for looped
Series: A World Beyond Denying our Needs.
Needs: A Burgeoning Awareness Most of us would not say that we are particularly skilled at identifying our needs; even fewer would feel comfortable asking for their needs to be
Turning Vulnerability Into Respect
Vulnerability tends to be received like a dirty word. When vulnerability gets mentioned, it’s like all the air gets sucked out of the room. Vulnerability is also somewhat taboo to
Desire is Not a Dirty Word
I often hesitate to share certain material because what I’m suggesting is the emotional equivalent of free falling off of a bridge. It’s like I’m asking you to close your
Results-Based Leadership: Harnessing Failure to Unleash Growth
How to Influence Your Colleagues to Achieve Shared Goals Leadership and failure are not often thought to go hand in hand, but once we conquer the heart-pounding fear of failure,
Vitality in the Workplace Series #2
“I have no reason to complain, I chose each step that brought me here so why am I so unhappy?” Sound familiar? Purpose is one of the most sought after
Vitality in the Workplace Series #1
Health Threat to Silicon Valley Companies I see a major underlying threat to companies’ health in the Silicon Valley. The workforce needs support in finding purpose and meaning in their
5 Steps to Effective Goal Setting
As we bring January to an end, how did you do with your New Year’s resolutions? Did they already get lost in your to do pile?? If so, it
Purpose & Wisdom
The phrase “you don’t know what you don’t know until you know it,” makes more and more sense with each passing day. There are moments that hit us out of
Effective Calendar & Time Management: 2018
Take a listen to my audio guide to Effective Calendaring & Time Management for a Fresh & Organized 2018! For more help with the emotional part of calendaring (FOMO,
Goal Setting: The Allegory of the Hiker
Listen to Heather’s guided reflection on 2017 and goal-setting for 2018 Let’s close out 2017 with a touch of reflection and a mountain of intention. Let’s chart out where we’ve
Surrendering Our Burdens and Our Burnout
The chime of the alarm filled my sleepy mind but the weight of my body felt like a concrete slab, too heavy to lift. It had been a long week
You are not what you think, feel, say, or do…
Believing we are what we think, feel, say or do is like dumping emotional tar in our brain; it keeps us neurologically stuck. Think of it like driving in a
30 Days of Emotional Clarity
Over the years, I have consistently noticed how clarity is the most common desire that clients seek. Their eyes staring at me expectantly as they hold their breath, hoping that
5 Tips for a Balanced and Fresh 2018
As we turn the page to 2018, here are some of my top tips for getting a great start on the new year: Clear your space. To feel fresh and
Battling S.A.D.
Battling Seasonal Affect Disorder (SAD) has been a lifelong challenge around this time of year when the wind chill is crisp and the clouds transform California’s gold to green. There
5 Simple Steps To A Better Night’s Sleep
Let’s start with the simple and sweet necessities: bedtime and morning routines. Most haven’t given much thought to these pinnacle routines, yet I have found them to be one of
Clear Communication to Create Secure Attachment
With IFS (Internal Family Systems) & NVC (Non-Violent Communication) Integrated Here is the why Here is a personal example from my childhood that, I hope, will illustrate how we can
A 2-Step Process to Help With Anxiety When You’re Feeling Judged
Each time Kristy thought of going back home for the holidays, her stomach lurched and her chest felt tight. Kristy pictured the disapproving tense look on her mother’s face when
Transform Anxiety with Lovingkindness
The darkness had not yet been disrupted by the dawn. Emma sat draped in her vibrant patch quilt blanket. The aroma of mint drifted up through the steam, rousing her
The Key to Relationship Growth
I don’t want to save you, I want to stand by your side while you save yourself. -Unknown The work in a relationship is to develop ourselves and let the
Audio: Love is a State of Being
As we bring the so called ‘month of love’ to an end, I would like to shine a bit of my own truth about the messiness of love. First
5 Tips for Dating as Busy Professionals
Working long hours? Looking for love? How on Earth will you find the time for yourself AND for dating!? You’re not alone! It’s a common theme in Silicon Valley: people
Meeting Life’s Challenges with Softness and Strength
Imagine you just walked into work, you see your boss walking quickly towards you, one hand gripping a stack of papers, the other in a fist. Their mouth is tight,
The Stories that I Told Myself
Originally published on the occasion of International Women’s Day As a little girl I grew up in a family where everyone was trying to survive so I told myself that
Gift List: Top 5 Books to Give this Holiday Season
From one bookworm to another, here are my top 5 Books to give this holiday season: Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown An awe-inspiring read! In between tears, all I
Ahhh I Get It, That’s What I’ve Been Missing!
Wow, mind blown! Now I get it. All this time, I didn’t understand why I got so uncomfortable talking to others about how I love myself. Each time I mentioned
3 ways to test a hunch that it’s time to let go…
We all get caught up in thinking patterns. I often associate continuity with safety and change with being out of control. Our stomachs can tighten up at the mere thought
The Mirror Effect: Handling Relationships With Authenticity
We’ve all been there; someone acts in a way that triggers us. Sometimes we catch ourselves before we lash out, internally or externally, and other times we lash out and