How to Soften the Grip of Fear About the Future
Today, I stand with you, and in support of you. And while I know today might feel heavy and uncertain for many, my hope is that we can soften our
IFS + The Enneagram
This blog covers the intersection of two powerful modalities I use regularly in my coaching practice: I will share an overview of these two modalities, but let’s first start with
Clear Communication to Create Secure Attachment
With IFS (Internal Family Systems) & NVC (Non-Violent Communication) Integrated Here is the why Here is a personal example from my childhood that, I hope, will illustrate how we can
Perfectionism vs. Growth Mindset
Plus the new realization that’s turned my perfectionism on it’s head ???? The Realization: The perfectionistic mindset shift that can amplify your efficiency in a HUGE way! Perfectionism is like
Special Edition: Neurology That Supports Effective Leadership
Here’s a bit of science jargon sprinkled with a simple application to keep you effectively flowing and peaceful. As much as we would like to push down or away from
DON’T CLOSE YOUR HEART FOR ANYTHING OR ANYONE
She leaned against the wall, the vise-like restriction tightening from the inside out. She could sense the discomfort crawling up her throat and felt like she may throw up. Tears
Scheduling to Create an On Point Work Life Balance
Picture you’re just about to hit send on the last email of the day. The cold beer waiting for you at home is already on your mind; you can practically
How to Ditch the Habits Holding You Back
Imagine a dark piece of marbled oak wood in front of you. In your hand, you’re holding the stainless steel handle of an etching tool. Now, picture yourself carving
Do You Get Stuck in Looped Thinking
Do you ever find yourself thinking the same frustrating thoughts? Does it feel like you’re stuck in a Groundhog Day of the mind? There’s actually a scientific explanation for looped
Series: A World Beyond Denying our Needs.
Needs: A Burgeoning Awareness Most of us would not say that we are particularly skilled at identifying our needs; even fewer would feel comfortable asking for their needs to be
Turning Vulnerability Into Respect
Vulnerability tends to be received like a dirty word. When vulnerability gets mentioned, it’s like all the air gets sucked out of the room. Vulnerability is also somewhat taboo to
Desire is Not a Dirty Word
I often hesitate to share certain material because what I’m suggesting is the emotional equivalent of free falling off of a bridge. It’s like I’m asking you to close your
Battling S.A.D.
Battling Seasonal Affect Disorder (SAD) has been a lifelong challenge around this time of year when the wind chill is crisp and the clouds transform California’s gold to green. There
If You Aren’t Motivated To Start It Now, Then It’s The Wrong Goal! How To Set 2017 Goals That Stick (Dec Newsl’t)
Okay, so we all fall victim to creating goals around what we think we “should” be doing. STOP it! As soon as you hear yourself thinking “I should______ (work out,
My Struggle with Dyslexia: How I Became the Writer I Always Wanted To Be
Have you noticed how the things we are most embarrassed or scared or feel shameful about are often a big-fat-red-sharpie arrow pointing us in the direction of growth and passion?
A Simple Set of Useful Tools to Create Balance in Uncertain Times
We have compiled a set of useful tools, based on the most common challenges that clients are experiencing during the pandemic. Each tool has been designed to help you direct
The Marble Jar Challenge
Who this challenge is useful for 😀 Anyone interested in developing a new habit. The story… A brilliant client came up with a really fun idea to help themselves develop
Ending Addictive Thinking
Imagine a small white cigarette on a table in front of you. That little cigarette is completely harmless as long as it just lays there, right? Cigarettes are like your
One Question to End Recurring Negative Thinking
The black Ford van pulled up to the curb at Terminal 3, door C. The Lyft driver came around to open the back hatch. He was medium height with a
Surrendering Our Burdens and Our Burnout
The chime of the alarm filled my sleepy mind but the weight of my body felt like a concrete slab, too heavy to lift. It had been a long week
You are not what you think, feel, say, or do…
Believing we are what we think, feel, say or do is like dumping emotional tar in our brain; it keeps us neurologically stuck. Think of it like driving in a
5 Tips for Dating as Busy Professionals
Working long hours? Looking for love? How on Earth will you find the time for yourself AND for dating!? You’re not alone! It’s a common theme in Silicon Valley: people
How to Survive Valentine’s Day
According to my team, the number one search on Vday is “how to survive Valentine’s day.” Well shit, talk about counterproductive, a day set to celebrate love and it winds
Saying No and Setting Boundaries
Have you ever had the thought “I’m always so busy but there’s always more to do!” You’re soooo not alone. Achieving balance is one of the most common aspirations I
Why Marriages Fail
This summer will mark the 12th year that my partner and I have been together. I’ve learned a few things over the years, one of them being how foolish I
The Perfect Traveling Partner
I have the good fortune of a few great travel buddies. Here are the 3 essentials I’ve learned about the perfect traveling partner: 1. Flexibility: A mutually easygoing attitude creates
The Passport: A Harrowing Start to Summer Vacation
His alarmed face made my blood pool in my feet before he finished the sentence, “Your Passport is expired!” “What!” I half screamed, grabbing the passport, “what does that mean!?”
Gift List: Top 5 Books to Give this Holiday Season
From one bookworm to another, here are my top 5 Books to give this holiday season: Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown An awe-inspiring read! In between tears, all I
5 Simple Steps To A Better Night’s Sleep
Let’s start with the simple and sweet necessities: bedtime and morning routines. Most haven’t given much thought to these pinnacle routines, yet I have found them to be one of
Ahhh I Get It, That’s What I’ve Been Missing!
Wow, mind blown! Now I get it. All this time, I didn’t understand why I got so uncomfortable talking to others about how I love myself. Each time I mentioned
3 ways to test a hunch that it’s time to let go…
We all get caught up in thinking patterns. I often associate continuity with safety and change with being out of control. Our stomachs can tighten up at the mere thought
The Mirror Effect: Handling Relationships With Authenticity
We’ve all been there; someone acts in a way that triggers us. Sometimes we catch ourselves before we lash out, internally or externally, and other times we lash out and
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