How to Soften the Grip of Fear About the Future
Today, I stand with you, and in support of you. And while I know today might feel heavy and uncertain for many, my hope is that we can soften our
IFS + The Enneagram
This blog covers the intersection of two powerful modalities I use regularly in my coaching practice: I will share an overview of these two modalities, but let’s first start with
Clear Communication to Create Secure Attachment
With IFS (Internal Family Systems) & NVC (Non-Violent Communication) Integrated Here is the why Here is a personal example from my childhood that, I hope, will illustrate how we can
Perfectionism vs. Growth Mindset
Plus the new realization that’s turned my perfectionism on it’s head ???? The Realization: The perfectionistic mindset shift that can amplify your efficiency in a HUGE way! Perfectionism is like
Special Edition: Neurology That Supports Effective Leadership
Here’s a bit of science jargon sprinkled with a simple application to keep you effectively flowing and peaceful. As much as we would like to push down or away from
DON’T CLOSE YOUR HEART FOR ANYTHING OR ANYONE
She leaned against the wall, the vise-like restriction tightening from the inside out. She could sense the discomfort crawling up her throat and felt like she may throw up. Tears
Scheduling to Create an On Point Work Life Balance
Picture you’re just about to hit send on the last email of the day. The cold beer waiting for you at home is already on your mind; you can practically
How to Ditch the Habits Holding You Back
Imagine a dark piece of marbled oak wood in front of you. In your hand, you’re holding the stainless steel handle of an etching tool. Now, picture yourself carving
Do You Get Stuck in Looped Thinking
Do you ever find yourself thinking the same frustrating thoughts? Does it feel like you’re stuck in a Groundhog Day of the mind? There’s actually a scientific explanation for looped
Series: A World Beyond Denying our Needs.
Needs: A Burgeoning Awareness Most of us would not say that we are particularly skilled at identifying our needs; even fewer would feel comfortable asking for their needs to be
Turning Vulnerability Into Respect
Vulnerability tends to be received like a dirty word. When vulnerability gets mentioned, it’s like all the air gets sucked out of the room. Vulnerability is also somewhat taboo to
Desire is Not a Dirty Word
I often hesitate to share certain material because what I’m suggesting is the emotional equivalent of free falling off of a bridge. It’s like I’m asking you to close your
Battling S.A.D.
Battling Seasonal Affect Disorder (SAD) has been a lifelong challenge around this time of year when the wind chill is crisp and the clouds transform California’s gold to green. There
If You Aren’t Motivated To Start It Now, Then It’s The Wrong Goal! How To Set 2017 Goals That Stick (Dec Newsl’t)
Okay, so we all fall victim to creating goals around what we think we “should” be doing. STOP it! As soon as you hear yourself thinking “I should______ (work out,
My Struggle with Dyslexia: How I Became the Writer I Always Wanted To Be
Have you noticed how the things we are most embarrassed or scared or feel shameful about are often a big-fat-red-sharpie arrow pointing us in the direction of growth and passion?
A 2-Step Process to Help With Anxiety When You’re Feeling Judged
Each time Kristy thought of going back home for the holidays, her stomach lurched and her chest felt tight. Kristy pictured the disapproving tense look on her mother’s face when
Transform Anxiety with Lovingkindness
The darkness had not yet been disrupted by the dawn. Emma sat draped in her vibrant patch quilt blanket. The aroma of mint drifted up through the steam, rousing her
Are you fulfilled in your relationships?
According to research, our relationships will be the number one predictor of our lifespan. Here are the typical responses that I hear when I ask, “Are you fulfilled in your
Vulnerability Is a B!tch
Have you ever felt that twinge of jealousy when you see a friend or (ex) partner having fun with someone else? In the past, I would feel a stab of
The Key to Relationship Growth
I don’t want to save you, I want to stand by your side while you save yourself. -Unknown The work in a relationship is to develop ourselves and let the
Audio: Love is a State of Being
As we bring the so called ‘month of love’ to an end, I would like to shine a bit of my own truth about the messiness of love. First
A Simply Mindset Change to Stop Feeling Weighed Down by Past or Future
Danny’s gaze fell on the crystal hourglass set on the wooden table in front of her. She watched meditatively as the tiny grains of sparkling golden sand collectively flowed from
The Gratitude Waterfall
Here’s how I discovered my new favorite meditation! The Gratitude Waterfall. I stepped out of the car, onto the gravelly dirt road and let out a long exhale. Looking up,
Meeting Life’s Challenges with Softness and Strength
Imagine you just walked into work, you see your boss walking quickly towards you, one hand gripping a stack of papers, the other in a fist. Their mouth is tight,
How to Build the Courage to Change
Letting go and softening into change has not come easily for me. Although I would like to think that letting go of tension in my body, relationships, and stress looks
The Stories that I Told Myself
Originally published on the occasion of International Women’s Day As a little girl I grew up in a family where everyone was trying to survive so I told myself that
Goal Setting: The Allegory of the Hiker
Listen to Heather’s guided reflection on 2017 and goal-setting for 2018 Let’s close out 2017 with a touch of reflection and a mountain of intention. Let’s chart out where we’ve