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IFS + The Enneagram

This blog covers the intersection of two powerful modalities I use regularly in my coaching practice: I will share an overview of these two modalities, but let’s first start with

Clear Communication to Create Secure Attachment

With IFS (Internal Family Systems) & NVC (Non-Violent Communication) Integrated Here is the why Here is a personal example from my childhood that, I hope, will illustrate how we can

Perfectionism vs. Growth Mindset

Plus the new realization that’s turned my perfectionism on it’s head ???? The Realization: The perfectionistic mindset shift that can amplify your efficiency in a HUGE way! Perfectionism is like

Special Edition: Neurology That Supports Effective Leadership

Here’s a bit of science jargon sprinkled with a simple application to keep you effectively flowing and peaceful. As much as we would like to push down or away from

DON’T CLOSE YOUR HEART FOR ANYTHING OR ANYONE

She leaned against the wall, the vise-like restriction tightening from the inside out. She could sense the discomfort crawling up her throat and felt like she may throw up. Tears

A Simple Set of Useful Tools to Create Balance in Uncertain Times

We have compiled a set of useful tools, based on the most common challenges that clients are experiencing during the pandemic. Each tool has been designed to help you direct

Scheduling to Create an On Point Work Life Balance

Picture you’re just about to hit send on the last email of the day. The cold beer waiting for you at home is already on your mind; you can practically

How to Ditch the Habits Holding You Back

Imagine a dark piece of marbled oak wood in front of you. In your hand, you’re holding the stainless steel handle of an etching tool.   Now, picture yourself carving

Do You Get Stuck in Looped Thinking

Do you ever find yourself thinking the same frustrating thoughts? Does it feel like you’re stuck in a Groundhog Day of the mind? There’s actually a scientific explanation for looped

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Series: A World Beyond Denying our Needs.

Needs: A Burgeoning Awareness Most of us would not say that we are particularly skilled at identifying our needs; even fewer would feel comfortable asking for their needs to be

Turning Vulnerability Into Respect

Vulnerability tends to be received like a dirty word. When vulnerability gets mentioned, it’s like all the air gets sucked out of the room. Vulnerability is also somewhat taboo to

Desire is Not a Dirty Word

I often hesitate to share certain material because what I’m suggesting is the emotional equivalent of free falling off of a bridge. It’s like I’m asking you to close your

Vitality in the Workplace Series #2

“I have no reason to complain, I chose each step that brought me here so why am I so unhappy?” Sound familiar? Purpose is one of the most sought after

Vitality in the Workplace Series #1

Health Threat to Silicon Valley Companies I see a major underlying threat to companies’ health in the Silicon Valley. The workforce needs support in finding purpose and meaning in their

5 Steps to Effective Goal Setting

  As we bring January to an end, how did you do with your New Year’s resolutions? Did they already get lost in your to do pile?? If so, it

Purpose & Wisdom

The phrase “you don’t know what you don’t know until you know it,” makes more and more sense with each passing day. There are moments that hit us out of

Effective Calendar & Time Management: 2018

Take a listen to my audio guide to Effective Calendaring & Time Management for a Fresh & Organized 2018!   For more help with the emotional part of calendaring (FOMO,

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Goal Setting: The Allegory of the Hiker

Listen to Heather’s guided reflection on 2017 and goal-setting for 2018 Let’s close out 2017 with a touch of reflection and a mountain of intention. Let’s chart out where we’ve

Loneliness in Silicon Valley

Helen’s shoulders drooped during her coaching session. “I’m so overwhelmed. I know I should go out, but going out feels like such a hassle. I’d rather go home to relax

5 Tips for a Balanced and Fresh 2018

As we turn the page to 2018, here are some of my top tips for getting a great start on the new year: Clear your space. To feel fresh and

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Battling S.A.D.

Battling Seasonal Affect Disorder (SAD) has been a lifelong challenge around this time of year when the wind chill is crisp and the clouds transform California’s gold to green. There

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5 Simple Steps To A Better Night’s Sleep

Let’s start with the simple and sweet necessities: bedtime and morning routines. Most haven’t given much thought to these pinnacle routines, yet I have found them to be one of

Do You Trust Yourself?

“Having never received any life coaching in the past, I was reluctant and hesitant to participate in a life coaching session, however, I was pleasantly surprised to find myself opening

Longest Testimonial Ever

How the Spiral Changed My Life By: Sasha Bailyn I really wanted to see the castle. Ever since we arrived in Bavaria, all I could think about was reaching this

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If Family is Everything, What Happens When Yours isn’t Healthy?

It’s an odd experience learning how to accept nurturance as an adult. I feel like I’m 30 years behind and finally learning to experience allowing. It’s like the emotional equivalent

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Ahhh I Get It, That’s What I’ve Been Missing!

Wow, mind blown! Now I get it. All this time, I didn’t understand why I got so uncomfortable talking to others about how I love myself. Each time I mentioned

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Don’t Give Yourself Away So Easily

I often receive some of my deepest insights in my sessions with clients. A few days back, I received a big one! As I looked at my client, her eyes

The Mirror Effect: Handling Relationships With Authenticity

We’ve all been there; someone acts in a way that triggers us. Sometimes we catch ourselves before we lash out, internally or externally, and other times we lash out and

Look at Me

“Heather is a super-smart, curious, sincere and committed coach. I thoroughly enjoy her way of deeply and fearlessly exploring to find insights and answers to my challenges. She truly is

Special People

“I would highly recommend Heather to others and not only is she a great coach, she is an inspiring human being!” -Dawn Surround Yourself With People That Help You Care-Less

A Simply Mindset Change to Stop Feeling Weighed Down by Past or Future

Danny’s gaze fell on the crystal hourglass set on the wooden table in front of her. She watched meditatively as the tiny grains of sparkling golden sand collectively flowed from

The Gratitude Waterfall

Here’s how I discovered my new favorite meditation! The Gratitude Waterfall. I stepped out of the car, onto the gravelly dirt road and let out a long exhale. Looking up,

Meeting Life’s Challenges with Softness and Strength

Imagine you just walked into work, you see your boss walking quickly towards you, one hand gripping a stack of papers, the other in a fist. Their mouth is tight,

How to Build the Courage to Change

Letting go and softening into change has not come easily for me. Although I would like to think that letting go of tension in my body, relationships, and stress looks

The Stories that I Told Myself

Originally published on the occasion of International Women’s Day As a little girl I grew up in a family where everyone was trying to survive so I told myself that

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Gift List: Top 5 Books to Give this Holiday Season

From one bookworm to another, here are my top 5 Books to give this holiday season: Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown An awe-inspiring read! In between tears, all I

You have everything you need already within you

Begin Your Journey To A More Confident & Authentic Life

If you are at a place where feeling supported in the changes ahead feels helpful, call me and we can explore how I can best support you.