As odd as it sounds, many people struggle with love. How to express love? How to receive love? How to feel lovable? What do unconditional and self-love feel like? These different topics usually become all bunched together in one mushy header of Love. Since everyone has experienced Love in one form or another, people seem to think that they “should” understand it. Yet many people including myself, struggle with receiving and expressing love.
So I think it’s about time to break it down a bit.
To love unconditionally, it is necessary to look past the person’s actions and see straight to their essence. The practice of looking past actions can be challenging. Many people instantly jump to “Well that means I have to let people treat me badly.” Yet this is the exact opposite of the very essence of unconditional love.
This is where all the misunderstood hype about ‘self-love’ comes from. Self-love is not getting your nails done, or allowing yourself an extra scoop of ice cream, it’s seeing you at your essence and trusting that you would come from that place at all times if you felt safe and knew how. First, unconditional love must be applied to one’s self.
After you find your essence, it is easy to understand why people love you. I have found, that to maintain this understanding at times, can be a little more challenging. 🙂 It is from that point, where true love can grow and blossom from.
In summary, to give and receive unconditional love, one must feel lovable; to feel loveable, one must first learn how to unconditionally love themselves. It is only at that point you can start giving unconditional love to others.
This all sounds very complex and ethereal but because I had a lovely teacher, it only took a few moments in a grounding exercise to fully and completely understand. In a way, she held a map of love and so she knew how to guide me to the place that I needed to go, to find myself.
The greatest gift to receive is to learn unconditional love.
If you would like to start feeling more Lovable, please feel free to set up a consultation with Heather and see for yourself if it makes sense to move forward on this journey of exploration together!
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