We all get caught up in thinking patterns. I often associate continuity with safety and change with being out of control. Our stomachs can tighten up at the mere thought of losing control. Many times our attempts to keep things “as they are” result in asking a lot of others.
In direct contrast to our desire for safety and control, we also thirst for adventure, and we thrive when we use abundant amounts of curiosity. The contracting needs for adventure and safety are an emotional tug-of-war between our spirit and my brain. I have learned that my enjoyment is directly correlated to my willingness to let go of the warm, fuzzy hand of comfort, and jump into the moment of change.
I feel happiest when the percentages are about 80% risk to 20% safety. The more grounded we feel, the more we are willing to choose the option that feels riskier (in other words, the less tested of the two options feels riskier). As we hold on to the familiar, we become weighed down by what no longer serves us.
It’s like clothes that no longer fit or match our style but we can’t seem to get rid of; or that relationship where every time we talk to the other person, we feel icky after. We all have aspects and relationships that we struggle to admit we’ve grown out of.
Here’s are 3 ways to test a hunch that it’s time to let go of something that’s been important to us…
3 Steps To Letting Go:
- Imagine what it would feel like if the person or thing was no longer in your life. If the shirt was out of the closet or the person’s number was no longer in your phone. Does it feel like a relief?
- Take action and do what feels best. If there’s a rush of motivation to get rid of more, you’re on the right track.
- Keep going! A good purge clears space for the people or aspects which bring the most joy and light into life.
Letting go can be a real struggle and some of us need some support to make the changes we know in our bones need to happen to move on.
We are here to support you through every transition–let us know if you could use a little extra nudge! From new wardrobe to new career, we’ve got you covered.