“Having never received any life coaching in the past, I was reluctant and hesitant to participate in a life coaching session, however, I was pleasantly surprised to find myself opening up to Heather right away.” Tanya
Through life, we learn and unlearn things. Depending on what your past looks like you are in a place to learn or unlearn trust, for yourself and for others. Trust is such a tricky one because it is built piece by piece over a period of time. Some of my clients get into sticky situations when they trust someone at a very high level before that person has shown that they have learned how to be trustworthy.
We all have a sorted batch when it comes to honesty and lies. You can probably recall at least a few situations where you can feel the thorny prickle of feeling lied to or taken advantage of. People handle dishonesty in a variety of ways but everyone I know does not view it favorably.
But pause for a moment and ask yourself:
- Do I trust myself?
- Why did I handle it that way?
We have our own trust stories but they probably look something like trusting yourself to keep your word with some things and feeling less certain about others. For example, I trust myself completely to keep what is said in confidence to stay in confidence, on the other hand, if I set a schedule for myself, I rarely keep it. Hence, building trust with myself to stay on task is something on my self-development to-do list.
This way of handling trust can be applied towards yourself or others. Where would it help you to do a little tuning up? If you have a complex trust story, it may be helpful to work with a professional on how to rebuild trust. Trusting ourselves and others, is a fundamental aspect of healthy relationships. But please always remind yourself to approach challenges with curiosity rather than criticism.
Either of these work??